Friday, March 23, 2007
Being Broke is So Depressing
We have rent due and we don't have enough in the bank to cover it. Work has been extremely slow up until this weekend when everybody wants me at the same fucking time. It's nice to get all that work, but it would be even nicer if it was spread out a bit more evenly. G and I are having the same ole stupid arguments about money and it never fucking changes. He tells me we need to do this and that differently, but he never makes any effort to actually do those things differently. I make an initial effort, but when I see I'm the only one making the effort, I get tired of it and slip back. So we end up in this never-ending cycle of barely getting by. I feel like I'm in a catch-22 because if I get pregnant I know I will change all my priorities around and get my shit together. But I won't be able to get pregnant until I have my shit together. We're both so fed up and depressed that we've been stuck in this financial rut for so damn long, but we're having a super hard time making the sacrifices necessary to get out of that rut.
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It took me 2.5+ years to get pregnant. We had bunches of problems and it would have been way easier to give up. But I am lying in the bed this am with my 2 month old and it was all so worth it! Try to stay focused and hang in there if you can.
Best wishes to you.
Ok, comment does not give me warm, fuzzy feelings but maybe that's just me. That aside.
Money woes are very difficult to muddle through in a relationship especially when in the long run, it is ranked low on the priority scale of love, family, and happiness. Hang in there Hon. When you are ready, reconnect with your husband, review your budget, and make a plan. It will help. I've been there.
Thank you so much... :o)
My ex and I used to live on one pay cheque and rent an apartment. It wasn't easy but we cut back on things and treated ourselves when it was something important. We had a weekly ritual of going out for dinner on Friday or Saturday, after pay day. It was kind of ruined cause we also went grocery shopping then most of the time. But, eating out once a week was a treat we could afford once a week.
Now when I'm single and living in the city which is a lot more expensive for rent. I am not always so successful at budgeting. But, I try to deprive myself when I actually do have the money to spend. Later, when it's close to my next pay day I spend on extra things. I began doing this after a few months when I had nothing left for groceries by the end of the month. Also, I pay rent one month ahead. So I am not behind even if I am a bit short. I can catch up without it being a problem.
Good luck. Marrying a guy so much older must be tough at times. I'm 42 now and I know I am more settled into my own ways now than when I was 20 something.
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